It’s hard to believe Ruby has been gone more than two years after being diagnosed with advanced kidney disease. Some days I still miss my little girl so much, it actually feels like a physical ache. I’m grateful I have eight years of Ruby’s Reflections on this site to comfort me and remind me of some of the cute things she did when the pain hits, and I love sharing the memories with you.

I miss Ruby every day all day long, but the time of day when I miss her the most is when I go to bed at night. Ruby always slept curled up in my arms, and some nights, I swear I can still feel her little body pressed against me.

Allegra used to sleep at the foot of the bed when Ruby was still with us, but a few months after she passed, Allegra started working her way up toward the head of the bed, and most nights, she now sleeps on the pillow next to me, which is so comforting.

Today’s memory takes us back to November of 2017, when Ruby explained how she slept with me.

Click here to read Ruby’s Reflections: Sleeping with Mom.

10 Comments on Remembering Ruby: Sleeping With Mom

  1. sending you ((((hugs))) I can so relate. Cody used to sit on the armrest of the couch next to me EVERY SINGLE NIGHT of his life. It’s been empty since he left me. Roary doesn’t sit with me on the couch at all…..Levi likes to snuggle with me (ironically), but the armrest remains empty 🙁

  2. My heart is aching as I look at my beautiful calico cat she doesn’t sleep in my arms but she sleeps on my bed and follows me around I can’t imagine life without her .
    I feel your pain.

  3. I think nights are the hardest when it comes to memories. Nani used to sleep under the covers with me, cuddled up to my side every night. I still miss her too and it’s been almost 12 years since I lost her. So, I can relate to how you miss your little sleeping buddy, Ruby.

  4. I have a little cat who sleeps curled up next to me every night. She is getting along in years and I dread the day she is no longer with me, she is such a comfort to me. As I get older the sad goodbye’s get harder to deal with and more hurtful, it truly is a physical pain. These cats and dogs that I’ve had after my children were grown have been like a second set of kids to me, they ARE family and every loss is so painful.

      • Thank you Giselle. It’s always nice to be in the company of those who do understand. So often we get told “Well, pets are NOT children!” And yes, I know that and I don’t compare it to loosing a child. But for those of us who are older with grown children, or who never had children, these pets DO become our family just like any human and I don’t value them any less.

        • Sherri, Bella gave me more love than most people in the world ever have, close family excepted. Our pets just want to love and be loved. It doesn’t get better than that. And I don’t think pet grief is acknowledged or as understood as it should be. I have only lately learnt that hurtful comments have to wash over us, as people don’t understand the close bond we can have with these wonderful animals. Our tears and pain at losing them are truly valid.

          • I am so sorry for your loss of Bella Giselle. Pets give us unconditional love which humans are simply not capable of. They love us the same every day with their whole selves, no matter what, on our best days and our worst days and every day in between. I lost my dear dog Nikki on February 8, 2021, just over a year ago now. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of her and shed some tears. I just miss her so much.

  5. For you to say it still hurts you missing Ruby after two years, helps me to accept that my pain is valid too Ingrid (it’s been seven months since Bella passed). My heart still hurts too. So, thankyou for sharing this.

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