Even though Ruby has been gone more than two years after being diagnosed with advanced kidney disease, I still miss my little girl so much, it actually feels like a physical ache sometimes. I’m grateful I have eight years of Ruby’s Reflections on this site to comfort me and remind me of some of the cute things she did when the pain hits, and I love sharing the memories with you.
Today’s post is not so much about a memory, but rather, about something I believe Ruby is using as a sign to remind me of her presence.
I believe our loved ones, both feline and human, show us in many different ways that they are still with us, especially when they think we need a reminder. We just need to be open to the possibility to notice them.
Common signs include birds, especially cardinals, butterflies, feathers and rainbows. I find it lovely that all of these are associated with lightness, love and happiness.
Ruby has been using “angel time” as a way to remind me of her presence.
If you’re not familiar with the term, the concept goes back to numerology and the idea that numbers carry a certain energy and meaning with them. For the past few months, I’ve been frequently noticing my digital clocks when they read 1:11, 2:22, 3:33 – you get the idea.
I’ve been aware of these “special” times for most of my life, but I mostly considered them one of those quirky things that you notice but don’t really think about. But lately, I’ve had a strong sense that Ruby is using angel time as one of the ways she lets me know she’s popped in for a visit.
I make it a point to say “hi Ruby!” whenever I notice angel time. As a result, I’ve been noticing angel time more frequently than ever before. It’s like Ruby is smiling and going “finally, she gets it!”
Do you believe that our departed loved ones leave us signs of their presence? Have any of your departed cats left you signs?
The cat that we had when our son was born, Tigger, would watch over him and let us know if he was fussing before we would even hear him. The two of them grew up together. After Tigger passed away we would frequently hear paws running across the floor upstairs, even though there was not a cat up there. Sometimes we would see a blur out of the corner of our eye when we knew exactly where our other cats were. We felt that Tigger was still with us, watching over us, and reminding us that he was there.
I don’t know much, but my beloved cats/companions/children are with me every day. I loved them so much and they blessed me with far more than I gave them. They changed me forever, and I am so grateful. They gave me confidence to reach out to other beings in need-and that reaching out has been a blessing.
Thank you to this community, who acknowledges the immense value of all our loved ones.
Love and regards
I don’t ever think we get over the loss of our precious children. I cry at every birthday, because they re getting older, I cry at anniversary of their passing and light a yahrzeit candle (type of candle that is lit in memory of the dead in Judaism) as I do for my parents and relatives. Sometimes out of the blue, I will just start crying, talking to her, telling her I am so sorry I could not save you. what you say about angel time, reminds me recently of the 2 last visits to my vet with her sisters, one was on the day she passed away, the next was on the day of her birth. every now and then I get signs or signals. thank you for sharing.
This is a beautiful post. You perfectly explained how throughout our lives we can understand there’s some significance to the numbers and other signs. However it takes a life changing loss for these forms of communication to truly make sense. I noticed but never really acknowledged this until I lost my big man. That’s all different now and every time I see a communication I’ll sing his song to him, talk and although it may seem a bit silly I will reach and scratch his favorite spots. Ruby is a very smart and special girl who most definitely is keeping an eye on things and reminding you how much she loves you and Allegra. I’m so bad trying to put these thoughts and emotions into a coherent comment but I know you understand what I’m trying to get across/agree with the post.
I think you put it perfectly, Kim. Loss changes us and if we don’t run from the pain, it’s an opportunity to open our hearts to possibilities we might otherwise not have considered.
I’ve not heard of angel time,but I think it’s wonderful. I’d love to get a visit from my cat,Luca.
I’m familiar with seeing the numbers 11 so much, and sometimes 22, 33.
I recently came across an article that explains them from a spiritual view
.Since I can’t post links here, I will send it to Ingrid.
Yes I do a couple weeks ago I was having a very bad time and as I was lying down I belive I saw momma midnite it was so comforting to see her all healthy again
Angel time, what a beautiful concept. I will have to be on the lookout for these signs. I’ve had many fur babies and miss them all very much.
I don’t know about Angel Time, but I would like to think it is true ! I still miss my Bambi.
Oh, Ingrid. I know your pain and wish there was a way for it to go away. I don’t think it ever does. My own grief at the loss of my Katie just two weeks ago is something I am struggling with. We have a shelf in our curio cabinet dedicated to her ashes and other memorabilia. I go in and talk to her several times a day. Yes, it makes me cry but it helps me to keep reminding her that she will always be in my heart. Just as that beautiful rainbow appeared over Buckingham Palace when Queen Elizabeth passed away, I believe that she was telling her people that all is well and not to worry. I see little things during each day that Katie would have loved and I like to think that she is sending me a message that she’s OK. Ruby, Katie, and all of our precious fur babies that have crossed the rainbow bridge will never be forgotten. They wait for us. I truly believe this. We must keep the faith.
I am sure Ruby is smiling at you now knowing you are in tune with her little nudges to talk to her. I have also been seeing those certain times a lot lately. Maybe someone is trying to get in touch with me too.
I feel for anyone that lost a beloved furbabies. I have lost so many babies and I miss them all for they were a part of me they were family. All these beautiful furbabies are with you for life in your memory and in your heart forever. Even my strays are part of my life. May all these gorgeous kids RIP!
Pandora, 18, passed away a year ago. She was my baby cat and slept with me all the time. It broke my heart when she passed. I would go to bed and then she would come to bed. Sometimes I wake up at night and hear her walking on my bed. I still miss her so much
These experiences are bittersweet, aren’t they? Even though they’re comforting, they also remind us how much we miss their physical presence.
I lost my girl (beautiful tortie) Bella 14 months ago, and the pain remains. Since February, and whilst praying to God in my pain, I have had what I would call ‘signs’, involving words (an unexplained email), lyrics to a song, rainbows, numbers and two days ago – a kestrel which flew right to a tree I was passing, and landed on a low branch and I just stood eye to eye with it, what a moment! All these events took place immediately after anguished prayers. I believe I am being comforted that my girl is ok, and I will see her again.
Thank you for sharing your experiences with signs, Giselle.