One of the MANY things pussycats are good at is knowing how to relax and be comfortable! They truly are AMAZING! Sometimes I look at our pussycats and come close to tears just watching them. Everyday I appreciate the love and joy they give us. We’re VERY fortunate we have them in our lives! Love and blessings to ALL furbabies! xo xo xo xo xo xo
Adopted a cat several months ago and I adore him the problem is he hates me. He loves my husband. I scoop his box, feed him and try interactive play daily. When I try to come near him he runs away. Someone told me to take a step back and ignore him. I don’t know what to do at this point, just be content with an indifferent cat?
Do you know anything about his history? Has he been abandoned? Is there a history of abuse in his past? It sounds like you may need to do some detective work to figure out why he reacts to you the way he does. Does he react to other females the same way? What does your husband do differently that you do or don’t do? Is your husband’s energy different from yours? You’ll probably need to be patient and let him come to you on his own terms. You may also want to consider contacting a feline behaviorist, perhaps they could offer some additional insight.
Cats do seem to have some kind of innate ability to sense who they like and do not like, but I would not give up hope yet. He obviously is attuned to hubby, and given time may warm up to you as well. As Ingrid asked, do you know what his history is? How old is he? He might just need more time and space. How does he interact with hubby? Sits with him? Plays with him? If/when he sits with hubby, can you sit with them or does he run away? Lots of observation is needed to get a better idea of what he likes and does not like.
One of my son’s cats (they were living in my house) would RUN and hide under the bed any time I came into that area. When they split, she left more than half the critters she collected for him to deal with, including two cats. One cat, friendly, went to a friend of his. The other (the one who ran from me) went to another friend, but was returned to my house after about 2 months. At that point my son was mostly living elsewhere and rather than him trying to care for him, I took over. For THREE days after returning, he would hide under the bed and if I just peeked at him and tried to talk to him, nasty hissing!! He was SO angry. Day 4, any port in a storm for him – he got lonely being alone. He came running to me and would head butt my butt (he is a big guy). Now he lives with me and my gang. Still affectionate to me (but loves to torment my oldest, who was the only one left of my previous crew – she hates cats. Period. End of subject. Cats are scum!)
Anyway, it has not been long since you adopted him. Give him space and time. Let him come to you. Maybe he won’t, but you never know. I would not so much ignore him, but just back off – don’t try to push yourself on him. One of the two 4yo sisters I adopted parked herself on the cat tree and would drop to the floor behind it if I approached. I let her be. After 3 days, she circled the big room (almost empty at that point after my son moved his stuff out), sniffing everything. I still left her alone and after many months, she got used to me (of course there is no hubby to attach to, but she did latch onto that first one I mentioned, my son’s cat – she is overly attached to him!) I would say it was a good 6 months before I could pet her. Her sister was the first to come out of “hiding” after the move and never had issue with me. The stand-offish one eventually would sleep with us and in our newer residence will jump on my shoulders if I am at the sink (or other easily accessible place.) So, you never know!
One of the MANY things pussycats are good at is knowing how to relax and be comfortable! They truly are AMAZING! Sometimes I look at our pussycats and come close to tears just watching them. Everyday I appreciate the love and joy they give us. We’re VERY fortunate we have them in our lives! Love and blessings to ALL furbabies! xo xo xo xo xo xo
Adopted a cat several months ago and I adore him the problem is he hates me. He loves my husband. I scoop his box, feed him and try interactive play daily. When I try to come near him he runs away. Someone told me to take a step back and ignore him. I don’t know what to do at this point, just be content with an indifferent cat?
Do you know anything about his history? Has he been abandoned? Is there a history of abuse in his past? It sounds like you may need to do some detective work to figure out why he reacts to you the way he does. Does he react to other females the same way? What does your husband do differently that you do or don’t do? Is your husband’s energy different from yours? You’ll probably need to be patient and let him come to you on his own terms. You may also want to consider contacting a feline behaviorist, perhaps they could offer some additional insight.
Cats do seem to have some kind of innate ability to sense who they like and do not like, but I would not give up hope yet. He obviously is attuned to hubby, and given time may warm up to you as well. As Ingrid asked, do you know what his history is? How old is he? He might just need more time and space. How does he interact with hubby? Sits with him? Plays with him? If/when he sits with hubby, can you sit with them or does he run away? Lots of observation is needed to get a better idea of what he likes and does not like.
One of my son’s cats (they were living in my house) would RUN and hide under the bed any time I came into that area. When they split, she left more than half the critters she collected for him to deal with, including two cats. One cat, friendly, went to a friend of his. The other (the one who ran from me) went to another friend, but was returned to my house after about 2 months. At that point my son was mostly living elsewhere and rather than him trying to care for him, I took over. For THREE days after returning, he would hide under the bed and if I just peeked at him and tried to talk to him, nasty hissing!! He was SO angry. Day 4, any port in a storm for him – he got lonely being alone. He came running to me and would head butt my butt (he is a big guy). Now he lives with me and my gang. Still affectionate to me (but loves to torment my oldest, who was the only one left of my previous crew – she hates cats. Period. End of subject. Cats are scum!)
Anyway, it has not been long since you adopted him. Give him space and time. Let him come to you. Maybe he won’t, but you never know. I would not so much ignore him, but just back off – don’t try to push yourself on him. One of the two 4yo sisters I adopted parked herself on the cat tree and would drop to the floor behind it if I approached. I let her be. After 3 days, she circled the big room (almost empty at that point after my son moved his stuff out), sniffing everything. I still left her alone and after many months, she got used to me (of course there is no hubby to attach to, but she did latch onto that first one I mentioned, my son’s cat – she is overly attached to him!) I would say it was a good 6 months before I could pet her. Her sister was the first to come out of “hiding” after the move and never had issue with me. The stand-offish one eventually would sleep with us and in our newer residence will jump on my shoulders if I am at the sink (or other easily accessible place.) So, you never know!
Have a great day.