My mom passed away 27 years ago, yet Mother’s Day still is a bit of a bittersweet day. The pain of missing her has faded after all these years, but I still feel some sadness when Mother’s Day cards start showing up in stores, friends make plans to spend time with their moms, and restaurants offer Mother’s Day specials.

Of course she’s in my heart every day, but I can’t help but wonder what it would be like to still have her in my life in a more tangible way. In the last birthday card she sent me before she passed away, she told me how proud she was of what I had made of my life at the time, But she never knew me as a writer. She never knew how much joy my chosen career has brought into my life.

And yet, I know she knows. I know she’s been cheering me on all these years, and I know she’s still proud of what I have accomplished. But on days like today, I wish I could get just one more hug from her. I wish I could hear her voice just one more time, calling me by any of the special names she had for me. I wish she was still here.

Mom and Feebee
My mom with Feebee, spring of 1985

She has been on my mind a lot over the past year or so. I often reflected on the hardships she lived through during World War II in Germany, especially when I felt like I couldn’t stand living through this nightmare of a pandemic for even one more day. She lived through a lot worse for six years. I hope I’ll be emerging from this current challenge with even a fraction of the grace she showed then.

Whether you’re the mom of human or feline children, enjoy your day. And if your mom is no longer with you, I hope today is filled with wonderful memories of your time together.

9 Comments on Happy Mother’s Day 2021

  1. You are blessed to have had one of the GOOD ones! I wasn’t so lucky! xoxo I am certain your Mom was (and still is) proud of you! Happy Mother’s Day! xoxo

  2. I feel the same way. I was the youngest of 4, being a mistake, my siblings were much older so I was very close to my mother growing up. In 2000, she called me many times asking me to move back home to care for her. My siblings were not the nicest people in the world. So finally in Aug 2001, I took early retirement (my company would not transfer me), and became her full-time caregiver for over many years. Shelved with me off and on for many years til I could not continue to lift her. I was with her everyday. It was hard, being a caregiver, I did everything. Someday I did not get any sleep for 36 hrs. I miss her very much. She was my best friend and she over my 4 legged girls, mini. Schnauzers. Her love of this breed is why I got my first one when I was starting college, but had to do an internship and my parents refused to give her back when I came home. Rose was their first grandchild and she was spoiled rotten. My parents would fight over whom Rose loved more. Rose adored them both. Rose was buried with my mom, it was in her trust. She loved Evie, Evie would wake up and go wake up my mom with a kiss ever morning. When I would call my mother, I would tell Evie grandma is on the phone, Evie would go get her favorite toy and play it in the phone, my mother got the biggest kick out of this. So Happy Mother’s Day and to all of those wonderful memories. I am going to visit her at the cemented today.

  3. Happy Mother’s Day. I can relate with you about your mom and the hardships they had to go thru. My mom too was in a concentration camp in Germany and she used to recall the horrors she and others had endured. She was such a STRONG woman bringing me and my brother up. Going thru the Pandemic is a piece of cake compared to what others have gone thru. I so miss my mom too. Having Tasha makes life bearable and I work for her to give her a better life.

  4. I know your mom is proud of you. I always believe passed loved ones are always there watching over us. Happy Cat Mom’s Day!

  5. I sadly think many often forget about how these smaller holidays affect those who suffered a loss. Happy Mother’s Day to an amazing cat mom and I can say with 100% certainty that she’d would be/is incredibly proud of you.

  6. Thank you for your lovely comment. I’m sure you have expressed the very thoughts many of us are thinking today.

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